Why should I wait for the man himself

Once I read that there is love between a man and a woman at once and at the same time. And I agree. Everything that happens asynchronously - is "all different", but this is unlikely to grow love.

You may object that you know a lot of couples, where at first she was very much loved, and zhenila on itself, and then years later the man once caught himself and started to love his wife. Or a man many years unrequited love a woman, then it is at some point suddenly saw the light and fell in love with a man. Let me not to believe. Rather, I am inclined to think that the second half when such a situation arose some secondary, perhaps unconscious benefits such as convenience, comfort, confidence in the future, freedom from fear of loneliness and so on.

Chemistry, vibes, love - they occur immediately when there are two of them, can make a pair. Not the fact that they have the patience, endurance and decision to develop a relationship of love, but the Lord has given them exactly that chance. There is a sudden momentary hitch. Both feel both realize both interesting.

If you after the first meeting starts some nonsense like "promise - not called '' he said - did not come", "Message received - did not answer", "month of thinking about relationships," this still may be "strained worked, not to private life was "," went on the volley with friends, let's transfer the meeting ", etc., do not build illusions. This is really nonsense. (Well, just know that in my mind at least decent synonymous with the letter "x"). "The one" among you has not happened. From this point you start to difficult and hard to build relationships, and to those who do you not need.

When people feel the chemistry, they are both trying to protect each other's feelings. Another disappears suddenly, because he feels like going to hurt you. The other will not leave unanswered your appeal because protects your attitude and your mood. Another would not insist on an open relationship, simply because he can not think of anyone but yourself. The other is mentally all the time with you, and you will feel it. You will not worry about whether there is a link between you, because I always receive confirmation of feelings and emotions associated with you. Another will be to you a sincere and honest, and you want to be the same.

You know, I think we get into all the small stuff only for one reason: we do not have the patience to wait the same man. If a young man, we do not yet understand themselves and do not know who we need, and get the experience because instead of happiness, in adulthood, and with patience and with the freedom and the happiness inside, everything is much better.

You may ask, what to do with those who did not wait, and who at forty and fifty and sixty years there was one? My answer: there can be different cases. Someone in the pair is not so, who should, and closed for himself other options. Someone decided that enough was enough, and well-arrange their lives in solitude. Someone says that "all men (women) - ..." and stopped to see people as they really are. Thus these people put on themselves, "the crown of celibacy."

But there are other people who enjoy life at any age, appreciate every moment and every feeling like the world and people love themselves and believe that the 7 billion people on Earth somewhere living the one whose image coincides with the idea in his own mind . Someone can hear yourself, learn a foreign language unknown impulse, and then finds happiness in another country. Someone wrote an article that the virus disperse on the internet, and so is his man. Someone is engaged in scientific activities and once at the conference met their fate. Everyone - his recipe.

Most importantly - believe me, the man deserves to wait. No not like this. He deserves to live and believe.

Author unknown.

Women's error in the beginning of a relationship that does not promise a happy continuation

1. betray themselves in favor of a man who does not accept you.
If men are not satisfied with your appearance, and he asks you to lose weight / get better, or do not like your hobbies, it's - not your man. To remake themselves for the sake of someone means to go against his nature that happy you did not do. Know that your man will adore all of your strengths and weaknesses, for him you will be the best, he would never dare to put to you some other girl as an example. And he will respect your interests, even if they will not understand. But he will give you permission to express yourself the way you see fit. And those men who do not accept you and do not understand - just not yours, do not change yourself to please them!

2. Allow intimacy.
This has already been written hundreds of volumes, but naive girl still think that sex can keep a man. "If I did not give him, he will go to another." Well, let him go! And thank God! Why do you need one of you who only need sex? Serious men need all the woman wholly, along with her personal qualities, the inner world, its ideas and aspirations. If he Inters only your body, I know it's not serious. And as soon as he gets his own, rest assured, it will fall off. Develop yourself as a person, to be able to not only be interested in a man body.

3. to impose, to try to clarify the relationship when the man moves away.
It is the nature of man - as soon as he approached the girl too close, and feels that fell in love with her, then disappears instantly. He leaves "in his cave," to look at the situation from the outside, look at that girl from the side and restore his manhood. The worst in this period - begin imposed a man trying to clarify the relationship, ringing, send messages about how you suffer, etc. This is only otobet his desire to return. You just need to understand the psychology of men, and if he goes - let him go. If you come back - well, continue your dialogue, and not - then it's just not your man.

4. Premature loyalty, care and serve as a husband.
This is typical of many women. Come up in my head beautiful scenario of your romantic story and believe in it. Because of its naivety and purity we take every man, with whom we meet as her husband. Men think quite differently. They are not so much attached to their mates, so to break off relations for them much easier. To avoid suffering, just do not get attached to the man who put the ring on her finger, and her husband did not. Keep all the tenderness and passion of only one man, for someone who wants a family with you, who will be a reliable and responsible person. Be friends with many men surrounded himself with numerous fans, it does not give you become attached to one and begin to treat him as a husband. Only those who deserve to be beautiful courtship and actions discourage you from all your competitors, and will receive a valuable prize - your love.

5. The idealization of the partner and excuse his behavior.
From love, at times, we strongly blows his head, and we cease to notice the obvious things. Girls between love very lenient to the shortcomings of men, naively believing that the man next to them will change. No, man - that form of life, which is hard to change. If during the period of courtship for you has not changed, then it will not happen, and after the wedding. Keep a list of qualities and traits a man with whom you are not willing to tolerate. And if you see their manifestation in whom any of the fans, it is a sign to you that this is not your man (if he proves otherwise and will not change). Also, do not try to justify male behavior and qualities of character difficult childhood, a difficult first marriage, heavy workload, etc. In the men's world, everything is simple, if he likes you - he will be manifested and aggressively pursue you, and if not, he quietly merge, and it's not a load, and that you're not much interested. See the truth.

6. Be serious.
Being overly serious and very seriously to begin a relationship - it is a mistake. It is not necessary to come to the second date in the veil to show the seriousness of their intentions to the man)). You will be much more attractive to men, if you fun and easy. In the early stages of a man can be very alienating excessive responsibility, so do not load his job. It you do not have a husband and did not have to. Be open and playful (but remember unreachable), this behavior is much more likely to charm a man.

7. Develop relationships male scenario.
Scenario men always simple and primitive (no offense to men, is simply their philosophy). If you want a long and beautiful courtship before marriage and after it, we must do the proposed rules of the game. Man voiced his desires if he inspired their performance - so he is seriously interested in you, and because relationships are the chances of success.

8. Complaints about the man.
Another mistake women, preventing the construction of close and trusting relationships are complaints about the male strangers, condemnation and discussion of its shortcomings. If you are into detail and talk to her friends or her mother (ie, the people who love you) about how bad you guy, they begin to protect you from him and dared. They can begin to think about your bad man, his dignity will fall in their eyes, they will cease to respect him. Once you make peace with him, but for your loved ones, he will remain a poor person is not worthy of respect, did not deserve to be with you. Therefore, no matter how difficult, always remember your relationship - it is only your relationship! Problems need to be able to decide for themselves.

10 things that make all the loving couples

How great to have in the life of a man who could be called the favorite. With him all the usual classes bring great pleasure and acquire a different meaning.

1. You take a shower and sit in the bath

When your relationship to a new level, you will sooner or later start to take a shower together. You rub each other the back, legs and strike each other shampoo on the hair. You can even arrange a foam fight!

2. Watch the same movie away from each other

When one of you, "sits" on some series, the other, sooner or later does the same thing. At the same time both of you know, seeing the previous eight seasons of "Dexter" together. It happens that you can not be there, but at the same time, you can start watching a movie and then discuss what was happening on the screen. These things get too close!

3. Share the side of the bed

What couple does not share the side of the bed? In my case, he sleeps on the right side is closer to the alarm, and I left to move away when it gets too hot. In the morning, as a rule, he is on the floor or halfway to ensure that fall, and I take the whole bed.

The height and length here do not matter! Physics stops working when you realize that your body is able to push a little more human mass.

4. Sleep in the arms

One of the most touching moments that so often in the movies. However, let's be honest: up all night sleep is simply impossible! When you sleep in the arms of the night comes a certain point when he removes his hand, or you both wake up at the same time turns over to the other side. From time to time you have to lift up his foot on the leg of his partner, thus showing that you love.

5. Choose the place where you can eat

When men ask: "Where and what do you want to eat?" - Women should stop responding: "I do not care any place will suit." He knows it's a lie! Your Knight has 70% realize that you choose, and just out of respect for your preferences make a final decision. When he asks you where you want to go, he just wants to test your reaction.

6. amused soul mate

The ability to laugh together with your loved ones - a very important quality. It's great when you have the same sense of humor. For example, since you can reassure your partner when he did not specify a day. After all, no matter what happens, all will eventually be well.

7. change clothes in front of each other

It does not matter whether you live together or not, once the time comes when you have to change clothes in front of their partner. There is one positive thing. When you need help to fasten the zipper or find socks, next is the person who can help. It's pretty cool, especially when you do not know, you look good or not.

8. Endure these very days

This period is as physically and emotionally painful for women as for men. The first three days - the worst! When your man is aware of this, he does not perceive the screams or cries to heart. He just knows that it will soon pass. And you are grateful to him for that.

9. Choose a good topic for conversation

Anniversary or other important date for you - a wonderful thing. You dress up, style your hair. Your man shaves off his beard, and looks so damn beautiful in his leather jacket!

But as soon as you sit down, you start to discuss a variety of unrelated topics together: the new series, friends, ideas on how to spend your holiday, and my "favorite" theme of cannibalism. Do not ask me how we came to this subject, I have no idea!

10. Communicate bedtime

That's what we love our men. They are always ready to listen and share with the way the day went and how they feel. This is a special intimate moment in our relations. And then we fell asleep in each other's arms.

Act of donation

Love - means to give a part of yourself, without payment and reservations. If you want love, you only need to give it. And the more you give, the more you get. Love is like a boomerang, it always comes back. It may not always be on the person to whom you gave it, but it still comes back to you. And will return a hundredfold. It is important to remember that we reserve the unlimited love. We do not lose it when we give. And the only way to lose love is within us - it does not give it to others. One of the reasons why people rarely experience love, - they are waiting for their first love someone else. But it looks like the musician who says, "I'm going to play music, only when people start to dance." Or wait for the heat from the fire is not put there firewood. True love is unconditional, it asks nothing in return. It does not tolerate barter. The secret formula of happy relationship for life is to always pay attention not to what you can take, and what you can give.

Think about what you say, and the consequences

How often do we say words in vain ... just to please someone, get a momentary pleasure or protect himself in such a way. What strange phrase: "I love you"; "I never betray you"; "You will be all right" ... Few people in our time laying the meaning of these words ... except our parents.
We promise, I swear, but then, without even noticing, break our promises. We do not think about those who have promised.
We do not pay attention to the care and affection of our parents, friends, and loved ones. Quite often they give us a part of ourselves, and we just simply do not appreciate, hurting people dear to us. How often we offend them, oblivious to the fact that they may have the most precious thing we have is that they do everything for our happiness.
I really want people to think first, before you say something. We think about the consequences, about the feelings of other people, and about himself. You love and appreciate their loved ones while you can. After all, time is running out. Month as a week; week as the day; day as an hour; hour like a minute; a minute, as the second ... Dear dear people, while there is time, it is not infinite.

True, it is vital?

Until 6-7 years - everything is clear, in the sandbox playing, everyone is equal. You have a bunch of friends around a magical world. Oh, it's wonderful (although at the time did not seem so) time!

Until 12-13 years - then the kids have broken into the company. Children's intelligence begins to suspect that all is not so rosy, and in general. The kids had a vague divide themselves into the ranks. He chukha, it has a set-top box. Well, you get the idea. But friendship is still there. This light-hearted, yet has not lost childhood friendship. High ideals, mutual assistance, mutual assistance.

14-17 - Welcome to hell, my young friend. Hell is going on in your head, and your peers. Psiholuhi call this awkward age. In short, you and your peers are doing garbage. Then, when your hormones are released, you usually stays a couple of friends that have passed to you through the years. Yet. You graduated from high school, in front of adulthood.

18-23 years - welcome. The world presents itself in all colors, with the darkest tones much more. At school, it would seem, you know everything, but everything is more difficult than you thought. Everything is as it is - and not otherwise. It is hardly words to describe. You can call it commonplace, fuss, some call it a normal life, but one thing I can say for sure - it breaks many. So, you did not have time to look around, all the friends of friends scattered all who where. He is studying at the university, one in the army. He married. Some have disappeared. Some thumps, some addicts, someone in search of themselves. And in the midst of all this mess - you. Almost one. You are new acquaintances, but you already do not dare to call them friends.

24-30 years - the period of torment. You look at others as they progressively equip their lives. Marry, raise families, work. Me. Outwardly, of course. Your old friends - you hardly you recognize them. You, of course, not a fool, wasted no time to lose. Also studied are also working, financially secure and professionally respected in their field. But the feeling of loneliness and misunderstanding oppresses you. You try to remember those old, forgotten feelings - finds his school love, meet up with old friends. And you do not understand, as before, you could them something to experience. Strangers.

thirty - ..? - Awareness. Man always alone, we all like a single boat passengers in the ocean - it's time. People who knew each other before, but did not communicate more than two years due to the fact that they parted ways - not friends. They simply did not talk about. This two.

But it is not all that bad. Around there are people who have come to the same. They have the same ideology, you have a closer look a lot in common, even in the interest. They might become your friends ....

How do you know what you have talent?

"Do I have talent?", "What if I do not the case?" "All of a sudden I have a completely different purpose?" - These questions plagued many people regardless of age.

Select a bit of time to understand yourself. The more you delay this process, the longer you continue to dwell in ignorance and doubts about their way of life.

We invite you to get acquainted with the effective technique psychologist Ivan Pirogov titled "Analysis of human existence". Take a pen and a piece!

Step № 1. Name your dream

The first thing to do - is to remember all their dreams: what you dreamed of as a child, as a teenager in school, in college, in adult life. Up to the present moment.

Write them down.

Step № 2. We share the "have" and "to be"

So are the dreams. It's time to divide them into categories of "having" and "being."

Dreams of the category of "have" - ​​a dream of owning anything.

Dreams from the category "being" - a dream in which you see yourself in any role.

Now write down the category of "to be" in a separate column, further work will be only with him.

Step № 3. What is causing your internal response?

Remember, you feel a special thrill when observing people a particular profession? Would you like to be in their place? Record.

Step № 4. What did you like to do?

The list, obtained in the previous steps, add all of the activities that bring you pleasure. What do you like to do in your childhood? In his youth? In the older age? What are the processes and actions you happy now?

Step № 5. Discard all unnecessary

Now check all the recorded dreams on "an emotional response". For this series, visualize each item from the list "to be" and listen to the feelings and emotions arise. Visualize need in the first person. Enter the desired role dreamed about. Imagine that this role is already your reality. What do you do at this point? What do you do? What you see and hear? And, finally, what you feel at the same time?

Once you have entered the role, pay attention to emotions and feelings. Then assess the effect of emotions from 0 to 10.

Step № 6. Ruthlessly cross out

Now cross off dream, received in the previous step the lowest scores. It is a dream from which you can now once and for all abandon. They are no longer relevant to you at the moment.

Step № 7. Grouping properties

So, before you list your real innate tendencies formulated in the form of dreams. At this stage, they are randomly piled in a heap. Look carefully at the list and answer the questions: what items in this list can be grouped? What consumables are better items can be closely related to one another?

For example, there are items on your list: "I want to travel the country," "I want to be a writer" and "I want to learn foreign languages." It's clear that the desire to travel the country very well combined with the desire to learn languages. A desire to write a book may be closely associated with travel. As a result, all three points complement each other beautifully.

Step № 8. Give the name of the group

Look for sale items and give the name of each group. The title should talk about your innate talents, which has spawned a chain of interconnected dreams. For example: "The ability to search for information, finding answers and solving the mysteries", "The ability to help people," and so on.

Step № 9. We are looking for links between groups

We're almost done! It remains to understand how groups relate to each other. To do this, write down the group received in a separate list.

Look at the list and think about the existence of one group supports the existence of the other? Practice shows that the group always have a mutually supportive links.

Step № 10. We are looking for the use of their talents

Think about and write down all the possible options for the implementation of their talent in real life. What kind of profession or activity? Maybe your talents suited to different professions at the same time? The more options, the better.

Step № 11. finally determined with the things you love life!

Write down a list of possible applications for their talents? Ok, now vote each item received list on a scale. 10 - it is a very desirable option. 0 - it is the least acceptable option.

Then you finally cleared a specific direction, which is really worth your attention. This direction will bring you success and joy in life and, of course, a good income. After all, when you know that you definitely have this talent, things are going with confidence and enthusiasm.

Author unknown.